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Today is trans day of visibility. I know today I’m supposed to feel happy and grateful or something but I’m just tired. Being trans means I am excruciatingly visible. all. the. fucking. time.
I have to “out” myself CONSTANTLY. It’s invasive, it’s scary, and being vISiBLe doesn’t help the fact that I will always be seen as “less than” the other men around me. Every day I get invasive questions about my body, my genitalia, my sexual preferences, my trauma. I don’t want to exclusively be seen as trans. I just so happen to be a man who is trans, but it is not my defining feature and it is not the sum of my identity. I am ALWAYS visible. Because every fucking day I find myself as the outlier, alienated, different, and it’s painfully obvious to me AND the non trans people around me. I don’t want fucking ViSiBiLitY. I want just as much respect, privacy, and dignity as every non trans person. I’m tired of constantly over extending myself, ignoring my boundaries, and changing myself. It’s time that more non trans people put in the effort. Google is free.
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Thank you for posting this. I appreciate you.
You’re right. We need to do better. I saw someone misgender you during class and I noticed and I saw the look on your face and it bugged me, but I didn’t say anything because I didn’t know what the right thing to say would be. I wish I knew what the best thing to do or say in that moment was because my first instinct was to correct them but I also didn’t want to single you out or make the situation worse. I don’t know what else to say except I’m sorry, and I wish that people would ask people their damn pronouns if they are unsure instead of just making a guess.
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OTP: if you can’t love yourself, how in the hell can somebody else?!
*inspired by the great Rupaul.
The Chinese Giant Salamander is called 娃娃鱼 in simplified Chinese, this translates to “baby fish” in English. Sorry if this is off topic but they’re great animals I love them dearly.