We all have things we want, and ways we wish out story to progress. What do you do when things don’t occur they way you envisioned? We’re human, so frustration, sadness, even anger is natural. But you have to move past it eventually if you’re to reach what you seek.
How do you move past obstructions and interruptions, obstacles?
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Whenever I do not meet my own expectations or fail at something, I find it is best to learn from whatever mistakes lead to the undesired outcome. Failure is a necessary part of eventually reaching success, because it is the best teacher in the world. All of us will fail at some point and should accept that this happens. I have found that in my own life when I achieve too much success I tend to slowly become complacent. Eventually, complacency combined with harder challenges that enter my life will lead to some short term failure. This kind is great because it is a wake up call that I need to focus and try to do better. Altogether, without the pain of failure and lessons that come with it we would be unable to understand the great feelings that come with success.
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I think the most important thing is allowing myself to feel those emotions that come with the obstacles. Recognizing that I can take that chance as an opportunity to learn or develop a skill is the next step. I always try to be realistic with my expectations and adjust my mindset and altitude. I tend to be more pragmatic when I give myself time to let my emotions out first and then work on regaining control over the situation after. I remind myself that these challenges are lessons that can ultimately allow me to thrive and become more adjusted with the world around me.
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I think it is important to let yourself feel disappointment as it comes, because when you bottle it up inside it tends to end up hurting yourself or others later. When I feel like I’ve “failed” at something, I think of all of the work I did and how much I learned, and realize that just working on a project betters your mind and character just as much if not more than completing it perfectly. I think about each step I took and what might have went wrong along the way and how I can prevent the same mistakes from happening next time. I remind myself of my previous accomplishments and the good qualities I have that won’t be changed by any external forces.
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Life is fluid, ever-changing. Often predictable in some cases but there will always be a level of chaos and randomness to our existence is that is well beyond our control. We are both nothing more than dust in the wind and the masters of our own destinies, should an undesired result occur from the best intentions do not fret. Keep moving forward, as life always will. Flow and adjust to the path of the times ahead so you do not get caught in the current and dragged beneath its powerful waves. What do you do when life doesn’t go your way? Keep moving forward, always. There is nothing else to do but to take a step back and look at yourself, find a better way, and take advantage of the lesson. Adapt and you will rise, hope for the best but prepare for the worst. Julius Ceaser was kidnapped, defeated in battle, even laughed at by his fellow countrymen but did that stop him from becoming the most powerful dictator of the single greatest empire this world has ever seen? Never. Until the day he was murdered by the same fools who looked down on him, he pressed on. Challenging both the gods and even fate itself until his name would be remembered for the rest of time. Take charge of the life ahead and miracles will find their way to you, keep moving forward. Always.
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I see all obstacles in life as a lesson. I believe in divine timing as everything happens for a reason and I believe that is to teach us and make us stronger along our life path. When things don’t go my way, I cry- become frustrated yes it’s natural human instinct….but then I think of it as “this didn’t work out because I wasn’t supposed to do it” and maybe there is something better waiting for me in place of this. One door closed and ten more open, that’s how I see life.
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I think embracing the emotion is a key part to moving on. You can’t move on from something until you accept it is actually happening or it actually happened. Then you can find a way to use the obstacle as motivation to get past it. You can also use the strength you gained from the obstacle throughout your life moving forward. Obstacles aren’t supposed to be easy. They are supposed to be difficult but difficult things make you stronger. Life is full of obstacles so learning to address the emotions and use the obstacles as motivation is an important life skill.
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When I run into obstacles or set backs anger and sadness is usually what comes to me first, but what I have learned to do is sit with myself in my room and take deep breaths. This helps me think through the situation and find other solutions to help me overcome the sense of failure. I also use creative writing as an outlet. This helps me escape reality for a while and delve into another life where I feel as though I have complete control over what happens and when.
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Self reflection. I consider emotional regulation and response to be important in how we interact with the world and ourselves, and learning how to do so, well, will teach us how to do so healthily with ourselves. I would consider my own participation in the situation, uncontrollable outside circumstances, and how I could have dealt with it all better. Then I attempt to address why I failed and then try again.
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When things do not occur the way I envision them to, I take a step back and brainstorm on how I can still have an enjoyable time and positive attitude. Even though it is cliche, I believe it is so crucial to make the best out of every challenging situation. When we allow our anger, frustration, or sadness due to circumstances surrounding us control or jeopardize our day, we are not being creative. I agree it is healthy and beneficial to express how you feel, but with that in mind, making sure you are not surrounding yourself with negativity. For me personally after I feel triggered, I take a fifteen minute break and allow myself to entertain those negative emotions. But after I have regrouped, I completely move on and find the best possible solutions to turn a negative circumstance to a positive circumstance. If other people are involved, I will address the situation and attempt to find a solution.
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Everyone can learn from this!! Thank you!!!
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When I fail and fall down I learned that you have to get back up and try again. Sometimes though it is tough to get back up. I find it best to reflect and think what I could do better next time. I have to know what I did wrong to be able to improve. At that point I try again and hopefully this time succeed.
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The most important thing for me when it comes to moving past challenges and or obstacles is patience. I have had to realize that life is gonna be much harder if one does not have patience. It is inevitable to fail but that does not mean that you don’t get up after that failure occurs. In order to build good habits and learn from your mistakes patience is a key aspect as it provides you with the strength and courage to keep going. So, if you ever find yourself in a situation where you simply just want to give up try taking a step back… as well as taking a deep breath and I can assure you that it will make these challenges much easier to overcome.
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Great thoughts here Miranda!! Thanks for sharing!!
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I had to definitely learn to balance a lot of emotions when it comes to this, what I found that work best is to have patients. Nobody likes to fail especially if it’s something their looking forward too but In life we can’t accomplish everything we have to fail at times but also have to balance out emotions and not get discouraged.
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Balance is a lot of it, but so is self-love and belief in what you’re doing!!
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Whenever I have to face a situation where something doesn’t go the way I thought it would, I usually end up overthinking about it a lot. That is a habit I wish I didn’t have and I try to overcome it. I do understand that this is all a part of life, and you have to pick yourself up and move forward. I always try to keep a positive outlook on life and if something doesn’t go the way I want, I try to move past it. I think I definitely have patience but sometimes it takes me a while to rebuilt myself and try again.
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There are a number of things I do when I feel I haven’t met my expectations or reach an obstacle. The first thing I do is understand that I am frustrated and move past that by looking at other ways for me to do what I had planned. Whether that be rearranging the order in which I do things, or take tasks out of what I want to get done. When something doesn’t go the way I intended it to, I think that the most important step is to think about compromising. If I don’t do this thing today, then I’ll have to get to it tomorrow. I feel the ‘going with the flow’ attitude is the best to take on however it does not do as it is intended when you say this to someone. In terms of meeting expectations, I just have to understand that I had done my best with the time I had and that there is no changing it now. I have struggled with worrying too much about things so a large part of my coping strategy is to let it be and to not worry about it. If I can’t do anything about it then I won’t waste time worrying about it.
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Moving past obstacles in my life has always been a feat in my life. I feel the outcome affects me more than the actual battle. For my passions and I, I find that my mistakes are where I learn the most rather than teaching myself new techniques (although those help). I think right now I’ve realized a sort of balance in problem solving and have gotten my emotions in check so that I can get right back up and get back to work. Because in the end, everything will work out.
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I feel like I have come to terms with the fact that there will always be at least one thing that goes wrong when trying to achieve a goal of some sort. Most of the time when it’s small things I still feel frustration, but I always try to find a way to improvise in some way. I also make contingency plans incase something really bad happens that makes achieving something impossible or more time consuming than I’d like. It feels odd to say that I just deal with it and move on, but for things that don’t matter too much to me I don’t really dwell on them too much. But if it is for something that I really want and it’s something that means a lot to me, I find a way to cope with the frustration and/or disappointment. Maybe play a game or do something different for a change to get my mind off of things and think about what went wrong. Then after that do everything I can think of to get past it if it’s a minor setback, or find a way around if it’s more intrusive. The only time I’d even realistically think about giving up is if I have exhausted myself and my options for turning something around for the better. It really does depend on what the thing is that I want and what is in the way of getting that that determines how persistent I am to overcome an obstacle. Though, I can say that generally I’ll just take the hit and keep moving forward because that’s really the only way you can get something positive out of it at the very least. Plus, the feeling of overcoming a huge obstacle that stumped you for a long time is almost like no other, and sometimes striving to get that feeling again can also push me to find a way.
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This is great Shawn! Thanks so much for the framed ideas and sensibility here…
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Moving past obstacles is something that everyone will be faced with many times in their life. Someone’s own level of anger or sadness always depends on how they choose to think about it. For me personally, if I failed to complete a goal I had or feel like I’m getting off track, the first step I take after the initial frustration would be to take responsibility. Even if there are other things outside of your control, the moment that you can accept your failure is the moment you will be able to move on and learn from it. Blaming other people and choosing to feel like there was nothing you could do to complete your goal will only push you further into the frustrated and sad state of mind. Everyone in their life will have problems and obstacles to overcome. This is the reason that I feel it is so important to have a goal or a future lifestyle that you feel is worth struggling for.
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Control is part of it, but so is character composition.
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When it comes to obstructions or disruptions in my life, I like to see the whole picture so that I can best learn from it. I like to not only see it from my perspective, but also look at it from those around me too to see if I can improve in any way. I try not to take these problems to serious and instead try to resolve the problem, learn from it, and continue on in life.
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When disruptions or issues come into my life, I have an issue of burying most of my emotions, many people do this and it isn’t uncommon. But typically I try and stop myself from doing so, whether its speaking with friends or family. Other days I will destress, walks, hikes, baths, facemasks – the typical self care junk. Coming to terms with issues tends to be my biggest obstacle, I always want everything to be happy and perfect but life simply does not work that way. To come to terms means a lot of self reflection and reflection on the situation.
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In the past when things would happen in a way I did not want I would shut down and get really frustrated. I used bottle everything up, so when one little “oh no!” would happen I felt like my world was ending. I have changed a lot since then, so when things do not go as planned I stress a little, but I also talk to my dad who helps me figure out what my next steps should be. Honestly I do not have a set way to get through obstacles and obstructions, I get through them by doing what feels right in the moment. Sometimes the feeling is doing something crazy spontaneous. or baking until there is no room left in my kitchen, or reflecting on what happened, or even just simply rant to my bunnies or dogs. Personally I feel like if I stick to one way, one resource or outlet, it will become a habit and I will not actually learn from the experience and be able to move on. It will feel like an assignment I’m going through the motions to say I did and to say I moved passed it to make it easier, but it actually ends up being harder.
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I’ve learned to not be super hard on myself when I fail as I used to be. I would make myself feel like the worst person ever because I could “never do anything right.” Now when ever I fail I try to not be super tough on myself because everyone is going to fail sometime in their life whether it is something big or not. I let time pass and when I’m ready I try again.
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When things don’t go the way I planned them I tend to take a second and think on what I could’ve done different to have made the situation go better, but in the end you can’t undo what you have already done so you just have to move on and take it as a lesson learned. Not everything is going to be the way you expect them to and that’s just the way life is. Sometimes the outcomes that you did not plan can turn into something better than what you expected so you just have to look at things in a positive way instead of just seeing the negative things.
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I had a huge object in my way at the beginning of summer as I had to find a school to transfer to. I was going to Collage of the Siskiyous in Weed CA and had to move back home and find a new school and lucky Coach Wagner gave me an opportunity to play here at Santa Rosa. It was a challenge to leave my new friends and new home to come and prove myself to a new team and new coaches. I’ve enjoy my time here so far but it was a big challenge but the whole time I was just believing in myself and my ability that no matter where I go I can get a scholarship and do what I need to do even if it means commuting to Santa Rosa everyday.
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When I am at an impasse on what I need to accomplish I do a couple of things to try and get over the hurdle. One time that comes to mind was when in freshman year we were assigned to make an 11page story on a book where you would put your personal input in the story to see what you would change if you were in their shoes. First, I simply stepped back and looked at the project and what were the main things that were supposed to be accomplished. If at this point I still felt overwhelmed with the challenge at hand I would try normal methods of destressing such as eating comfort food or listening to some nice music. Finally, I would use something I learned in my public health class which is called mindful breathing to truly relax.
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If things didn’t go the way I wanted to or didn’t occur the way I envisioned it, I try to positively talk to myself. I always keep in mind that if it didn’t go the way I wanted it to be, I always remind myself that things happen for a reason. If sometimes it is my fault, I keep in mind that I learned my lesson and I will try not to make the same decision again.
I move past obstructions and interruptions, obstacles by dealing with them if I could and if it is not in power then I will try anyways to think through what I can do. I can’t just ignore them, I need to do something about it and it all depends on what it is I am dealing with. It just depends on what I am facing and what I want to overcome.
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Everyone wants their own way I want my own way but that’s not how it always comes out to be.When things don’t turn out to be the way I envisioned it I get upset or mad but at the end of the day everything happens for a reason I’m a strong believer that was meant for me is meant for me and will be part of my life or come to me whenever it it’s too. I overcome obstacles by grieving like I said if things don’t turn in my favor Im going to have balance my emotions and knowledge from what I know and how to do better.
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Growing up if something did not happen in my favor I would just bottle it up, and one day when I got so angry at everything, I found myself writing everything I was feeling. By doing that I helped myself just release all the negative energy I was holding back and just letting it go. Since then I find myself writing here and there when life gets hard on me, but I have now been able to understand we need to manifest, especially when things to not go as planned. I have also learned to just take a step back and reorganize when something doesn’t happen in my favor, sometimes creativity takes time and it can’t go as planned.
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